What to write in an elopement announcement
ELOPING: EVERYTHING You NEED To Know
well hello lovely humans and welcome
back to my channel today's video is one
of the most highly requested videos I
think I've ever had now of course I
think a lot of what's happening out
there in the world right now is really
inspiring this line of thought but also
it's not something that's entirely new
today we are gonna talk about elopements
so without further ado let's just jump
right on into it
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we need a we need a quick disclaimer in
here um I'm not encouraging anyone to
break any sort of social distancing
rules laws or regulations okay y'all
have been asking for an elopement video
here it is I know it a lot of people are
considering an elopement or something
along these lines based on what the
landscape of life has looked like for
the last however many weeks and what
could potentially look like moving
forward please please please follow the
suggestions and guidelines of your local
government or our federal government
this video is intended to be evergreen
content so if someone clicks on this
video a year from now my hope is that
this will be extremely helpful for them
if they are entertaining the idea of an
elopement we do touch on a little bit of
what's happening right now and why
people might be choosing it but I'm not
telling anybody to break the rules or
break the lap okay okay now back to the
video so first of all what is an
elopement because for a very very long
time the idea of an elopement was that
you and your honey went off skipped off
went to a place like Vegas and got
hitched without telling anybody now the
term elopement is really moving away
from that general idea I'm sure you
could still have that kind of event and
described it as an elopement but what
we're seeing these days is a very very
different trend
elopements now are considered to be a
planned intimate affair and it's where
you and your spouse to be get together
with a limited number of people and
choose to have a small wedding ceremony
this can be done in a destination
location this can be done where you go
on a really long hike and then you get
married on a mountaintop with gorgeous
backdrops or it could be something
that's planned with a few family members
and friends but for the most part it is
a very very pared down version of what a
wedding could look like you don't see
high guest counts you don't see a whole
lot of vendors being involved and it
also can cost a lot less you can either
have it in your own backyard or you can
go super super far away and take
advantage of beautiful photo
opportunities and this can have some
sort of meal afterwards but typically
it's more focused on having an intimate
ceremony in a cool location instead of
having a grand party with a bunch of
people invited you can still elope and
have a large reception afterwards at a
later date and this I think is what is
inspiring
most people right now to kind of look
into this given the current landscape of
what's happening in the world I'm not
gonna say any names because I don't want
to be do monetize again but you guys
know exactly what I'm talking about now
why would someone choose an elopement
over a larger wedding celebration there
are plenty of reasons why this could be
a totally viable option no matter what
is happening in the world and there are
some wonderful reasons to choose an
elopement over a larger event because
it's so much smaller you can be so much
more adventurous with it you can pick a
more interesting location you're really
more flexible because it's less people
you can move around a lot more easily
than it would be to move with 50 people
75 people 100 150 people it just creates
more opportunities to get out there and
try something different because you're
not limited by the amount of people that
you have second it's a lot cheaper if
your budget is $15,000 and you want to
invite 100 people that money is gonna be
very very quickly spoken for I did do a
video about the number one thing that's
killing your budget you guys have heard
me talk about it before I'm gonna link
it up here but to summarize the whole
point of that video
weddings are more expensive based on the
amount of people that you invite to
attend so if you're doing something
small with a few family members and
friends and you're efficient and a
photographer you can do so many more fun
things with those funds instead of
paying for plates
everyone's meals everyone's drinks you
have more room to play around with that
which means instead of spending ten
thousand dollars on dinner for a bunch
of people you can then spend $3,000 on a
photographer $3,000 on a videographer
and then a small dinner afterwards you
can get a killer outfit you can still do
hair and makeup you can still have what
feels like a traditional event just with
a lot less people and then really
indulge in the areas that are important
to you another reason to choose an
elopement is because of the privacy and
the intimacy of it if you are a more
introverted person and the idea of
spending an entire day surrounded by 150
people stresses you out then perhaps an
elopement is a great option for you I
know that there's gonna be some family
opinions that are worked into there I
know that it's not always like the
easiest decision if you feel like
there's societal pressures for you to
have a big event but if it's not your
thing then it's not your thing don't get
me wrong I know everything that I
saying is um it sounds like I'm wedding
shaming I'm not
y'all know and literally have an entire
channel about giant events okay like I
love this stuff
but that doesn't mean it's for everybody
elopements also provides flexibility
that literally no other wedding type
event can have like I was saying earlier
you can go wander around and take photos
in radical locations you're also not
limited by venue rental hours if you're
up on a cliff or you're walking on a
beach the only thing you're limited by
is your photographers hours and the
amount of time that you have you're
efficient for it but once your
ceremony's done it's not like you need
you're efficient for much longer if you
have a photographer for four hours
that's completely different for an
elopement than it is for a full wedding
event four hours with the photographer
for a full wedding event like that is
really really difficult to pull off I
have done it it was very hard I'm not
saying it's impossible but that means if
to be very very tight with your timeline
if it's just you two and your
photographer four hours all of a sudden
means so much more because you're not
beholden to any of the traditions or any
of the timeline regulations that you
would typically experience with a formal
wedding okay so we talked about what it
is and why you might be interested in
doing it now let's talk about how you
might actually pull this off first of
all you're gonna want to decide if you
want to do an elopement package with a
couple of vendors or if you want to
create something custom for yourself
there are plenty of wedding planners out
there who specialize in elopements I
personally am NOT one of them
I have never performed an elopement ever
although I did just get an inquiry for
one in Paris
I'm low-key freaking out about it I
can't I can't put enough but me my
freaked out in Paris okay let's move on
if you are choosing to do a package it's
important to select vendors from the
area that you want to have it in I know
a lot of us obviously are traveling
these days but let's let's talk about
planning ahead if you are going to elope
to a destination location it is smart to
pick vendors from that area or who are
familiar with that area whether that's a
wedding coordinator or planner or a
photographer and videographer especially
in locations that you're completely
unfamiliar with you're gonna want
someone who knows both the physical
landscape so they can talk to you about
where you can actually have your small
ceremony and the wedding landscape what
does it look like over there what tips
do they have for this look
in regards to the weather in regards to
how far it is from civilization how long
will you have to hike to be able to get
to this spot you're gonna want to find
someone who's familiar with all those
things because you're not gonna want to
figure that out on your actual elopement
wedding day so figure out if you want a
package or if you want to do something
custom find vendors who are familiar
with that area and then I kind of
skipped over this one but obviously
you're gonna want to pick a location I
have seen a little bit recently of
people doing more backyard style
elopements obviously and that is still a
viable option moving forward again it
doesn't have to be anything giant and
you don't have to go on a hike if you
want to have an elopement and you don't
have to necessarily be an adventurous
person to want to have an elopement as
well it can be local you don't have to
go super far to do this but if you are
doing more destination type elopement
then it would behoove you to do a bunch
of research and find again vendors in
that area to help you make educated
decisions the next thing you're going to
figure out is the amount of guess you
want to have do you want it to be just
you and your honey be efficient and the
photographer or do you wanna go a little
bit bigger than that and have a couple
family members and a couple friends and
the Lippman isn't necessarily defined by
the amount of people you invite but
typically it's not a very very large
guest count because elopements have this
more adventurous type feel to them
oftentimes that means you're not
following a typical timeline and you're
off gallivanting with your photographer
to get all of those amazing shots the
next thing you're Navy to figure out is
obviously the legality of all of it
where how are you actually signing your
marriage license if it is local there's
probably gonna be too many issues with
making that happen but please do bear in
mind you do need to research if you have
to have an efficient present and/or
witnesses present otherwise your your
marriage license you know it's it's not
valid if you are doing your elopement in
another country or another state then
you will again need to do your own
research
the reason I'm being super vague about
this by the way is it would take way too
long for me to figure out like
state-by-state regulations because every
place is pretty different so I do
recommend if you are gonna do this you
gotta figure out how to make it legal
and then the last thing you can do
should you choose to is to set if a
party to have later with all of your
family and friends this could be super
reminiscent of a typical reception where
you just bring everybody in eat some
dinner have some toasts and dance on the
dance floor you could be a lot more
simple it could be a restaurant style
reception where you all just get
together and have a great meal or it
could be a backyard event where you just
invite everyone over to celebrate the
fact that you guys got
or after an elopement even if you're
already legally married you can still
have a full wedding day and I say this
because a lot of people who are choosing
elopements or choosing a small intimate
ceremony right now is because they have
to is because there isn't another option
for them there's a lot of logistical
things that are affecting people's lives
right now so if you want to you can
still legally get married and have
something small and cool and really
enjoy it and then have a larger party
later on down the line so if an
elopement was not your first choice if
it wasn't exactly what you signed up for
it and you're just doing it because it's
literally the only option you have right
now you can still have a full wedding
day later should you choose to whoof
okay so it's like a lot of information
basically elopements are bad and then
the last 10 years they've really pulled
away from getting married by an Elvis
impersonator in on the strip of Las
Vegas and turned into this beautiful
wonderful concept of celebrating your
love story in an intimate and oftentimes
adventurous way I know it's a tough time
for a lot of us right now I do it's it's
rough and it's not my intent to minimize
any of that this also doesn't rob you of
your beautiful wedding day that you had
planned because at the end of the day
you found your favorite person your
favorite person who you want to spend
the rest of your life with
so whether an elopement is something
you've been thinking about or planning
on doing there's obviously a whole lot
of merits to it or you're here because
you don't have any other options and
you're just looking for a little bit of
clarity on how to move forward with this
they're a great option and a great way
to legally and beautifully celebrate
your love story so that's all we have
for today folks thank you so much for
stopping by I hope this video provides a
little bit of encouragement for you guys
there are so many great merits to doing
an elopement I'm still gonna be a big
fan of big weddings like they're just
they're just rad clearly I'm in this
industry for a reason but more and more
I'm starting to appreciate and
understand and really love elopement if
you haven't done so already like this
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