What to write in card when someone dies
How to write a good condolence card for a death in 2020 #sympathy #condolence #letter #card #writing
hey everyone good to see ya today's
topic is about condolence cards I was
thinking about this recently because a
friend of mine needed to write a card to
a friend of hers whose mother had died
and she didn't actually know the
person's mother and was wondering what
to write and I got thinking about this
and I you know I hate to think of the
number of cards over the years that I
have not sent because I didn't know what
to write and I somehow I guess magically
thought the words would come to me if I
waited and they never did and I didn't
send it and that is far worse than just
sending off a card and signing your name
or even writing you know I'm sorry for
your loss or something simple like that
but if you want to add a little more to
it than that I want to give you guys a
few ideas today for what you might do so
first of all if you knew the person for
a while sharing any kind of memories is
is helpful so for example maybe it's a
childhood friend and you can recall how
you know their dad was your soccer coach
or their mom used to love playing cards
and you used to love playing cards with
them on Friday nights or anything like
that any kind of memories that you can
share with them that they can hold those
memories maybe they'll keep the card and
refer to it in the future when they want
to hold up those memories or maybe they
you know can share those things with
their kids then and help them get to
know somebody that you know maybe they
didn't get to the full chance to know so
that's one idea
another is any kind of personal quality
that you can share with them like I'll
always remember how kind your dad was or
remember how welcome your mom made me
feel when I'd come and have dinner at
your house or how funny your mom was or
anything like that or even if it's not
that kind of personal quality maybe just
some kind of personal aspect like I'll
always remember what a huge Huskies fan
he was and every time I see the Huskies
I'll smile and think of your dad
something like that can be helpful too
if you really didn't know the person at
all but your friend had maybe talked
about them from time to time you could
say something like I really wish I had
known your mom she sounds like a wonder
person I always loved hearing your
stories about her something along those
lines can be helpful to I'd say the most
important thing is to try to send the
message of this sucks
and I'm here for you as opposed to any
of the kinds of platitudes that we may
often hear around grief in our society
things like you know he's in a better
place now or at least she's not
suffering anymore or really anything
that starts with at least and then
something following that or any kind of
a silver lining
type sentiment you know this isn't
really the time for that it's something
that over time they may come to embrace
some of those ideas themselves but when
someone dies and you're sending a
condolence card those kinds of messages
tend to make people feel misunderstood
you know make their grief feel
invalidated or make them feel like
nobody understands what they're
struggling with so I'd encourage you to
stay away from those kind of platitudes
and try some of the other tips mentioned
here so I hope that's helpful if you
found it helpful please do like this
video and share with with anybody you
know who may also I need these tips you
know sadly right now with the pandemic
going on I feel there might be a lot
more condolence cards needing to be sent
and I hope this will be helpful to you
if you need to do that all right hey
hope you're having a great day bye
