I have three tips that I hope will help you or anyone you love cope with breast cancer.
The first one is to keep a notebook. Here is mine. Handy little just black notebook
from the office supply store or Walgreens or whatever. Whenever you go to see your doctor,
write down everything here she says. You think you will remember, but you really won't and
even better, if you have someone go with you, a family member, a significant other, have
them take the notes instead. You kind of a lot on your plate, let them do some other
work. If you have questioned that you want to be sure to remember to take with you to
your doctor, put in this notebook. It is a great way to refer back; however, I have to
share something with you. My surgery was such a booming success that my son who was supposed
to be taking notes during surgery got bored and started playing tic-tac-toe. So you never
know what you are going to find in your notebook, but now or later it is gas to look back at.
The second tip that I had is to never forget this is your body. If you don’t understand
something, if you don’t like something, stop everyone, stop everything, and ask questions,
tell them you are uncomfortable, tell them you don’t understand. You can even pack
up your wagons and go home if you don’t feel right for an appointment, it’s your
body. Remember that scene in Pretty Woman where Richard Gere goes into the women’s
clothing store and says we have got some major sucking up to do. Remember that scene when
you go to see your doctors. Be nice, but if you don’t understand or you are not happy,
let them know, it’s really, really important.
Here is my third tip, maybe not as easy as the last two, but certainly no less important.
We can control where we are going to be, a year from now, a month from now, even a day
from now. That is true with or without breast cancer, but we all have lots of worries only
to our minds. Here is what I suggest you do. Write each one of your ideas, your fears,
your worries, down on a piece of paper, a 3 x 5 card, a post-it note. If you need to
make some calls or do some research and that will make you feel better about it, do that,
but then at the end of day stack them up and move them aside. Worry about each item as
an individual object rather than trying to worry about them all as a whole and seeing
them written down make them actually become objects rather than having them rattling around
in your brain. I hope these tips have helped you. Remember, you are never alone in this
journey. There is always someone there to help.
Hi, I am Judy Pearson, founder of Courage Concepts, an organization that cultivates
courage in women and girls. To learn more about me and my work, please visit my website