hi I'm Emery with speak confident
English and welcome to your confident
English Wednesday lesson last week I was
with a goober friends we went out at the
end of the day to just spend time
together have a drink talk about our day
what was happening in our lives and one
of my friends was having a super crappy
day it started with spilling coffee on
herself on the way to work in her car
and then it just progressed from there
it was a snowball effect she got some
bad news at work the school called her
and told her one of her children was
sick it was just terrible and at the end
of the day she was exhausted she was
upset she wanted to quit or give up on
everything so my friends and I our job
was to help cheer her up to make her
feel better to try to make her laugh and
feel happy and I know that sometimes you
might be in the same situation sometimes
you might go to work or you might see
your english-speaking neighbor or a
friend and they're having a terrible day
they need someone to cheer them up they
need someone to make them laugh or make
them smile so how could you do that in
English of course we can do things for
example we can send someone flowers we
can give someone a hug or we can send
them a really stupid funny video on
Facebook just to make them laugh but of
course sometimes we want to say
something we want to respond to their
story about their day about whatever it
is that happened that was terrible
upsetting or hurtful so that's what
we're going to learn today we're going
to focus on what you can say to someone
to cheer them up and
English will do this by thinking of a
few different situations different
examples of a really bad day and what
you could say to support them encourage
them make them laugh and ultimately
cheer them up now sometimes a bad day
doesn't mean everything is a disaster it
might be that you have a friend who
needs to make a really difficult
decision and she's stressed she's upset
she doesn't know what to do and she
can't think about anything else maybe
she can't eat she can't concentrate at
work because she has to make this
difficult decision one of my favorite
ways to say that I support someone or if
I want to encourage them is you've got
this it's a simple sentence that lets
the other person know we believe in them
we know that they can do it they can
make the right choice or maybe they're
doing something that's really hard for
example maybe someone is training for a
marathon it's a goal that they've had
for a really long time
but it's getting hard and they want to
give up so your goal is to encourage
them we could also use this expression
you've got this
it simply means you can do it I believe
in you and I support you another great
way to let someone know that you support
them is I've got your back
I've got your back again this expresses
your support that you will be there for
them and you will support them no matter
what now let's go back to that situation
where recently my girlfriends and I went
out and one of them had a terrible day
like I said at the end of the day she
was just exhausted and upset and ready
to give up one of the best things that
we can say to let someone know that we
are there to support them is to
lycée I'm here to help whatever you need
I'm here to help maybe that means
helping getting dinner ready for her
family or that means picking her up for
work because her car is at the mechanic
maybe it simply means having a shoulder
to cry on and that is another great
thing to say I'm here if you need a
shoulder to cry on sometimes people just
need to get all of those tears out they
just need to cry for five minutes ten
minutes and then they're finished
they're past it they're over it but it's
helpful if they have a friend who is
there with them as a shoulder to cry on
now let's finish with a couple of more
humorous things that you could say to
cheer someone up these last few examples
would be great for someone that you know
really well so this could be a co-worker
that you're close to
you know them very well or a really good
friend and maybe they've had a
disastrous day or maybe they had a
recent breakup and they're really upset
about it your goal is to make them feel
better maybe even to make them laugh so
you might call your friend or send her a
text and say should I come over tonight
with ice cream pizza and a movie
who doesn't want ice cream pizza and a
movie when they're really upset just
saying those makes most people feel
better and if you send it in a message
an email a text or say it to a friend on
the phone it will probably make them
smile or laugh and the second thing that
you could say to maybe make a friend or
co-worker smile is to say if you need
some retail therapy
I'll go with you retail therapy is an
expression that we use to talk about
going shopping to make you feel better
now that isn't true for everybody but
some people do feel better just with the
idea of going shopping
something for fun and we call that
retail therapy
of course what is really the most
helpful and important is that you are
spending time with your friend when
she's upset or going through a difficult
situation but that little message will
definitely make someone smile or laugh
and with that you have six ways to cheer
someone up when they're having a
terrible day or going through a
difficult situation now of course there
are so many things that we can say to
cheer someone up and you might have
something that you could say that I
didn't mention so I would love to hear
from you you can share your own examples
things that you've heard or maybe you've
said in the past just below this video
in the comment section it's a great way
to share with others learn from others
in the confident English community and
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useful to you and with that it's time
for you to try this in real life if you
have a friend going through a difficult
situation or having a bad day or to
someone who just needs to smile try
using one of these new sentences today
thank you so much for joining me I look
forward to hearing from you in the
comments and I'll see you next week